Eating disorder, body dysmorphia, a teen body has a lot of names. We see behaviour that is not healthy coming from young people when it comes to food and their bodies. The times you see someone starving themselves, calling themselves fat or training their life away is alarming. Quite honestly, it is behaviour that is noticed daily. There is this obsession with having to eat and exercise a certain way to achieve the bodies that we constantly see in media and everywhere we look.
Do not take me wrong, in no way do I mean that you should not strive for a healthier life with good, nutritious food and exercise for more energy and vitality. This will of course lead to a good looking body in the long term, one that might look like the people we see on Instagram.
What I am saying is that it should not be something you obsess over. I used to be there. I would hate myself for missing a workout or if I ate something that was a bit more on the sugary side. Whenever that happened I saw it as a failure and that lead that period of my life to be one where I felt so incredibly bad. It was not healthy.
Balance is key. Eat that square of chocolate a day if the bulk of your diet is healthy. Skip that workout if you really are tired, you’ll be back at it tomorrow. It is only when you find balance that you feel good and it all comes naturally.
No, I am not there 100% there myself but I am working on it everyday. It just upsets me to see boys and girls around me, looking at themselves and hating every inch of what they see, punishing themselves for every mistake they make. No one is perfect and you can change how you look like to feel your best but appreciate where you are without starving yourself and without looking down at yourself.
You are beautiful and you are worth it.
Throughout life we are constantly faced with things that scare us. Whether that is a minor phobia or something that has scared you for the rest of your life. Some fears are fears that will always exist in your life and that is something you learn to live with but some fears are some that you learn how to master.
What you have to understand is the quicker you get back at doing whatever might have hurt you at first, the faster you will learn to master it. You can not let the fear control you, you have to learn to control it.
Many times we become paralysed by a bad experience. Instead of taking control we lose it because we feel like we aren’t capable of fixing the problem.
The world is out of our hands and that is a fact. You will never be in full control over your life but that should not stop you from doing what you want to because of it going haywire once. Like the riders say, if you fall off a horse get back on it again. the faster you conquer your fear the faster you will master it and you will be able to live the life that you always wanted.
Writing. Something that almost feels like second nature. It is something that just feels normal by now. Every time a post comes out my mom always seems to ask the same, flattering question “How do you write like that?”. To be completely honest I have no idea. My fingers just seem to dance over the keyboard whenever I feel like something needs to be said, important or not.
I do not think you really understand that feeling until you start dedicating a bit of your day to just sit down and write something. It could be a journal with all of your thoughts, a fictional peace or even a poem. Writing is a way of expressing yourself that is nearly impossible to do in any other medium. It is a way to put all your thoughts down.
Therapy might be a word that pops up when it comes to talking discussing the benefits of writing. The reason being that no longer does your brain have to grasp all of your complex thoughts and aspirations but it is down on paper, reducing stress.
Just as any other craft people seem to use the old excuse of “But I don’t know how to” . If you really have the will to do something you will try and try until you get to the goal, no matter what it is. As humans we tend to stop before we even started. Just because words don’t speak to you in the morning does not mean that you are not a great writer. Everything has its time and writing is something everyone should try, no matter what level you are on. Everything evolves.
Something that keeps popping into my life is the need for motivation, especially when it comes to studying. When you have dedicated a big chunk of your life to studying you kind of have to live with it throughout your daily life whether or not it is something you wanted.
I have chosen a route that might not be the best for you but it a route that has always been in my thoughts. Sometimes the difficulty just pops into your head and you have no idea how you would be able to come with the stress and the tasks that you have accepted into your life. Even though your doubt yourself or your ability to chase your dreams no matter if it is academic or not you will be able to do it if you really want it and if the road was made for you.
We all lose motivation at times but it is whether you sweep yourself off of the ground or not that assists you towards your goal or away from it. Just remember that everyone around you is either going though the same struggle as you are or they might have already gone through it. A cliché is the quote It get’s better but it truly does if you let it. Life will reflect your actions into your life. Continue to keep your head up high. You will make it though this.
When studying in High School and College it is very easy to get stuck in studying. You constantly want to be on top of your game and the deadlines are always stressful. Of course you want to be the you can be but there is always a time when you forget that all you need to do is take a break.
I am attending the IB, a program that is very hard and academically demanding. Through the hard way I have learnt that it’s when you least want to and least feel like you need a break is exactly when you should take a break.
Taking a day or a night off is okay, no matter how much you have on your plate. Being tired and worked to the core will just make it worse when you actually need to sit down and study. Not to mention you will decrease stress and feel better all over.
Remember to reserve time for yourself to stay in tune with yourself. You have a bigger chance of making it if you take it as it comes, one step at the time.