Limiting yourself because of fear; something that everyone seems to be doing but a fine few are actually aware of it. I was not a 100% aware of what I was doing until yesterday night.

While discussing the future with one of my nearest and dearest friends a lightbulb flashed in my mind, something that I really never thought about. I had been so caught in the fact that I have not started pursuing and training myself to do what I am going to pursue when I get older that I never thought of the root of the problem.
The truth is, I have not been brave enough to just take a leap in faith and do things. I have been too scared that whatever I produce will be cr*p and that it will not live up to the quality of other’s work.

How is one supposed to be good at something if they haven’t failed? How will I become better and learn if I don’t produce something cringe-worthy once in awhile?

I have decided to step out of the comfort-zone and pursue what I love and I hope you will too. It is a cliché but one really does only live once. Do what you want to and be stupid, make mistakes because that is how life happens.


Happiness is something I really want to get through to you as a reader. Whether the post is about how it is to feel sad or if it is a post about feeling happy; positivity is something I want to be a spokesperson for.

People always strive to be happy, even though they might not seem to know it. Life is about finding things that assist you in feeling the best you possibly can. Sometimes it feels as though people are looking in the wrong place. Somehow we tend to be striving for other people’s happiness instead of looking for happiness in our own life. There is a tendency to think that happiness is only achievable if we have certain materialistic things but it is usually the experiences we have and the people around us that give us true happiness.

Throughout my very short 16 years I have found to be the most happy when I have stopped in the mist of a fun time with the people I love.

I guess what I am trying to say is that happiness does not come from material or money, it comes from what you surround yourself with and if you have decided to live life to its fullest or not.


Expectations; something I have a constant conflict. Either it is something to strive for to help reach your goals or something that might quite literally destroy you and the view you have of the world.

Being one of those persons who believe in dreaming, having hope is something I have always had, no matter what it would be about. But it is dangerous to be too excited or hopeful for something sometimes as it might end up hurting you. I always find that when I am too confident in something it never tends to happen. That leads to me constantly asking myself where the line goes. There seems to be a very fine line between being just the right amount of confident and being overly confident. It is still a mystery to me.

But life still goes on, whether or not your expectations became reality or if you ever really cared about the outcome. Sometimes the only thing you can do is bite your lip, move on and try again next time. Because that’s what life is, right? a learning experience.


I have no doubt in my mind that many of you reading might be stuck in a rut. There is just way too much to do in way too little time. It may scare you and make you feel like you have gone way over your head. Some may feel unmotivated because of the work load and choose  to push the responsibilities even further into the future, procrastinating when you should be doing something important that may help you at a later stage, which in turn stresses you out more. You might be having problems in your social life; not seeing your friends as often as you’d want, maybe your going through a break up or maybe you just feel stuck.

Trust me, it just feels like I have described everything going through my life right now and that’s the first step: realizing what you are doing and what you could do better. But here are some steps that have kept me from breaking down each and everyday:

1.Don’t plan more than you can do

You might think you are Superman and that you are able to do 6,000 things in one day. Be realistic, ask yourself if you have time to complete your to-do list or if you will just end up pushing things on to other days? Make sure that you are not demotivating yourself by having too much on your plate too soon. When you are done with the first few things you can take on more but don’t force yourself.

2. Smile, laugh and have fun

I am not going to lie. At certain time you are just way too tired to talk and you are in no way, shape or form in the state of wanting to smile. All you want to do is lay in bed and sleep all day. But this is exactly what gets us into a bad mood. Smile, laugh and have fun because you can make yourself feel better.

3. Breath

Sometimes it is inevitable  and you have a ton of work to do. Make sure that you pick the most relevant piece you want to work on and set a limit to how much you are to work on it today , making sure that you are fully focused. Then move in to the next thing. Avoid thinking about everything at once because it will only lead to stressing. Sometimes it is beneficial to have a narrow mind.

4. Exercise

No matter if it is stretching at home, lifting weights at the gym or taking a walk around the neighbourhood, there is something with moving that just make you feel better and helps you destress when it is needed. I have always found myself more confident in myself in a period of regular exercise. Besides that it is a great time to get your mind off of things that are not worth thinking about and putting your mind on things that are worth your thinking time.

I hope these steps helped some of you out there. If they did please let me know and if you have any tips on distressing and surviving please leave them in the comments.




Being someone of the 21st century it’s hard to not be hard on how you look like as a girl and we miss what should be a priorityOur health.
When you get to a certain age you realise that eating healthy and working out is not about how you look, it is about how you feel and whether you are healthy or not. You will feel a lot better when living a healthy lifestyle, the aesthetics comes after. Your body will start to adjust itself and you will start to look as good as you feel. The way you look should not be the priority, it should be the way you feel.

That brings be to what this blog post is really about. Me and my friend Wilma have started a YouTube channel for trying to motivate ourselves further to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be. This channel will be one where we post our journeys as individuals and as a duo. It will be a place that we will grow and learn. One where we will share our workouts and what we eat. It is a place we can help you and a place where you can help us because don’t we all need a helping hand once in a while?

Join our journey with us: