We all have our dream life, the life that we ultimately want. We all have this picture in our heads about how it is to look like and how it is going to feel but we always forget one detail; not to worry.
This thought has dawned on me for the last couple of days. The intense worry that we feel is completely ridiculous and misguiding at the same time as it is a feeling that lures us in. We have the tendency to go for the rational thinking of our worry but we are capable of more and we know it deep inside us. you just have to have the courage to believe in yourself and your power to attract what we want into our lives.
I know some of you might feel as though things like The Law Attraction or religion are just jibber jabber but we have all been a part of instances when we have been through things that can not be explained. It is like when you think of something and it happens to you. You made it happen whether you want to believe it or not.
You just have to realize that you make your life, do not let life make your decisions but decide what you want to do with your life without a worry. Put life into a corner and do not let life open up another path. If you want something badly go for it with a positive mindset and discard all of the worries. You are strong and you know it. I am on this journey with you.
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Am I ruining my life? A question that keeps lingering in our minds throughout our lives, each time for a different reason. It is almost as if you start to question your whole existence and what you may or may not be doing wrong to reach your dream life. It is exactly this question that gets us to start questioning our goals and ambitions in life, whatever they may be. We start doubting the road we picked to get to our goals, causing us to confuse ourselves and moves us backward.
No matter what you are thinking right now, you are not ruining your life. I can safely say that. I have been their many times. It’s like you look upon your life and ask yourself if you are doing enough or if you are doing too little. Life is playing a game but you have to be strong and determined in the road that you picked.
Whenever you feel doubt settling in, take a deep breath and remember where you come from. Remember why you picked your path in the first place and remember that if that path no long suite you, you can always change. But if the path you picked leads you to exactly where you want to be you have to pause and take a minute to yourself and just breathe. You can make it. Don’t doubt what you are doing because you fear that you’re doing something wrong. You never stop learning new things. Every moment life is trying to say something to you. Follow the whisper. You are stronger than you think and you are capable of anything, whether it feels like it or not.
We’re living in an age of which we are surrounded with so many “Couple goals” some might feel as though they need to be in a relationship to be relevant. Independence is a rare value nowadays. We should feel empowered by being able to stand for ourselves in a way that makes us feel happy and not as though we are missing something.
Standing for yourself might seem daunting and like something that you would want to avoid but the truth is, it is how we grow as the people we are. Just recently I have gotten out of the rut that I have been in since as long as I can remember. Ever since I was a young girl I have been a hopeless romantic, wanting that picture perfect relationship and sad when I started thinking about reasons why I did not have it.
This is not me saying that you should not crave someone else in your life but I am saying that you do not need someone except for yourself. Focus on you and be happy with yourself. Take care of yourself and eventually, someone will walk into your life because you have learned to love yourself.
We spend so much time focusing on the way we look like, judging the way we look and pushing ourselves down. How many times have you walked past a mirror, stopped and started to inspect yourself? How many times have you started to stare at your imperfections as soon as you meet your reflexion?
There is this weird sense of having to check your whole being as soon as mirrors stare back at us. I’m not saying you should stay away from checking yourself out every now and again but I am telling you not to start picking at anything and everything that could be wrong with you. It’s slowly picking our self-esteem apart.
As soon as you have been away from your reflection for more than you are used to, the more you start to appreciate yourself and all the features that come with being you. It’s almost as though a new light shines and you start to reflect the way you feel deep inside to how you look.
Mirrors and thinking about the external takes away from the way we truly feel whether that has to do with how much we love ourselves or how we feel in general. I think we have to start shifting our focus and stop focusing on everything negative in our reflections and start tuning into our intuitions.
Maybe it’s just me but I keep finding myself staling. Whether that is on school work or on other things. The fact is that with all the technology our generation has gotten their hands off it is getting easier and easier for us to not just procrastinate on work but also on life.
We get so consumed by how our lives look like that we forget to actually live our lives. Instead, we focus on making everything seem much better than it is instead of actually making the best of our lives.
I will give you an example.
Whenever I seem to have the best time either with friends or with family I always seem to have fewer pictures than when I am having an okay time. It’s like the fun just takes over and you don’t think about reaching across the other side of the room to reach for your phone.
Likewise, when you are sitting at home staring at your books you know it’s a lot easier to reach over to your laptop to watch Netflix than to start on your paper or read a book of which could change your life.
I know it is a lot easier said than done but try to live a bit more. Learn, love, drown yourself in life because this is the only chance you have. You’ll never regret it.