Eating disorder, body dysmorphia, a teen body has a lot of names. We see behaviour that is not healthy coming from young people when it comes to food and their bodies. The times you see someone starving themselves, calling themselves fat or training their life away is alarming. Quite honestly, it is behaviour that is noticed daily. There is this obsession with having to eat and exercise a certain way to achieve the bodies that we constantly see in media and everywhere we look.
Do not take me wrong, in no way do I mean that you should not strive for a healthier life with good, nutritious food and exercise for more energy and vitality. This will of course lead to a good looking body in the long term, one that might look like the people we see on Instagram.
What I am saying is that it should not be something you obsess over. I used to be there. I would hate myself for missing a workout or if I ate something that was a bit more on the sugary side. Whenever that happened I saw it as a failure and that lead that period of my life to be one where I felt so incredibly bad. It was not healthy.
Balance is key. Eat that square of chocolate a day if the bulk of your diet is healthy. Skip that workout if you really are tired, you’ll be back at it tomorrow. It is only when you find balance that you feel good and it all comes naturally.
No, I am not there 100% there myself but I am working on it everyday. It just upsets me to see boys and girls around me, looking at themselves and hating every inch of what they see, punishing themselves for every mistake they make. No one is perfect and you can change how you look like to feel your best but appreciate where you are without starving yourself and without looking down at yourself.
You are beautiful and you are worth it.
We all have our dream life, the life that we ultimately want. We all have this picture in our heads about how it is to look like and how it is going to feel but we always forget one detail; not to worry.
This thought has dawned on me for the last couple of days. The intense worry that we feel is completely ridiculous and misguiding at the same time as it is a feeling that lurs us in. We have the tendency to go for the rational thinking of our worry but we are capable of more and we know it deep inside us. you just have to have the courage to believe in yourself and your power to attract what we want into our lives.
I know some of you might feel as though things like The Law Attraction or religion are just jibber jabber but we have all been a part of instances when we have been though things that can not be explained. It is like when you think of something and it happens to you. You made it happen whether you want to believe it or not.
You just have to realize that you make your life, do not let life make your decisions but decide what you want to do with your life without a worry. Put life into a corner and do not let life open up another path. If you want something badly go for it with a positive mindset and discard all of the worries. You are strong and you know it. I am on this journey with you.
There seems to be this fear throughout the world at the time, a fear based on everything happening in the world. It is like a large portion of the world’s population is scared for the world to end…or at least that a lot is turning bad. Whether it is about inequality, LGBT rights or even politics in general.
What scares me the most is that no one really seems to care about the one thing that could lead our species into extinction; the environment. With the climate change that is occurring there may not be any of us left to fight for further rights. Earth has always made it, has always been able to recover but it’s the species living on the plantet that need various conditions to expand their race.
Aren’t you scared? The rising sea waters may lead us into moving further into land and we are already overpopulated. Where are we going to go? Yes, there has been various fluctuations in the temperature of the planet but it has not been like this before.
The rising temperatures can naturally be reversed if we let it, meaning that we have to keep the temperature at where it is and not worsen the conditions. What may not be so clear is that we can all aid in this fight. Even though it may seem pointless for you as individual to change a habit it could help so much more than you think. If you make an example other people are bound to follow.
It is us that control the politics and the politicians within. They feed off our needs and need our voices to succeed. Together we could establish laws, putting forth taxes and such that in turn forces us as the population to control our consumption of various different things.
We have to continue to educate each other on the consequences of the change for it is only together that we can make a real change. Even if it would only be The US that would start acting on the environment as Sweden has the world would be getting into a better place.
We can do it together, we can make the world a better place.
Photo by Cornelia Ekvall
Am I ruining my life? A question that keeps lingering in our minds throughout our lives, each time for a different reason. It is almost as if you start to question your whole existence and what you may or may not be doing wrong to reach your dream life. It is exactly this question that gets us to start questioning our goals and ambitions in life, whatever they may be. We start doubting the road we picked to get to our goals, causing us to confuse ourselves and moves us backwards.
No matter what you are thinking right now, you are not ruining your life. I can safely say that. I have been their many times. It’s like you look upon your life and ask yourself if you are doing enough or if you are doing too little. Life is playing a game but you have to be strong and determined in the road that you picked.
Whenever you feel doubt settling in, take a deep breath and remember where you come from. Remember why you picked your path in the first place and remember that if that path no long suite you, you can always change. But if the path you picked leads you to exactly where you want to be you have to pause and take a minute to yourself and just breathe. You can make it. Don’t doubt what you are doing because you fear that you’re doing something wrong. You never stop learning new things. Every moment life is trying to say something to you. Follow the whisper. You are stronger than you think and you are capable of anything, whether it feels like it or not.
Being insecure in general is something that we go through as adolescence. It’s almost as if it is meant to happen constantly. The fact is that the teen years are when you are meant to find yourself and bloom into the person we are to become. We learn to be confident in who we are, our personality and the traits that go along with it. Trying to find yourself is something that makes you extremely fragile, no matter how confident you are as a person. This since you have not gone through the experiences you have to have gone through to end up being the person you are to be for the rest of your life.
If you are a person who has an overpowering trait or something that you are known for you will understand what I’m trying to say. Although you are fully aware of what you do and how you act sometimes it just gets to you. Even though it might just be lightly made fun of it still ends up being the subject of thought that keeps you up at night.
Questions like “Why am I like this?” and “Can’t I just be like everyone else?”. They are questions that should not effect you but they still somehow do.
I guess what I am trying say is that is okay to have something you are insecure about. We all have things we are insecure about but don’t talk about. Heck, it happens to me everyday. Know you are not alone and you will learn to accept yourself with time. But for now, don’t beat yourself up about it too much. You are probably just overthinking.